The Whole Truth And Nothing But The Truth: My Skin.

My whole life, skin was my “thing.” While I had a host of imperfections from the neck down (many of which have been helped thanks to laser hair removal and SoulCycle, haha), my skin was never one of them.  I never thought about it that much- I was just sort of happy-go-lucky about it, testing every new product that crossed my desk, slacking on makeup removal more than I should have, and applying SPF less than I should have.

Recently, I started to notice a fast depreciation in the quality and appearance of said "great" skin.  At first it freaked me out. That panic soon turned into a weird joy over having an excuse to nerd out and get into the skincare trenches to solve a popular problem that suddenly became personal.

“What do you do for your skin?” is probably the #1 question readers ask me (well, possibly tied with “how do you not kiss Goldie’s pudgy cheeks ALL DAMN DAY?") So here is what I do- the truth, the whole truth and NOTHING but the truth:

1-    BOTOX: Every 4 months. I go to my derm (who also happens to be my next door neighbor, which is mighty convenient), Dr. Elizabeth Smith at Fairfield Dermatology (or, in a pinch, my kitchen.) She injects Botox in my forehead and around the outer edges of my eyes to smooth out (current and future) eleven lines, horizontal forehead creasing, and laugh lines.

2-    JUVEDERM VOLUMA/JUVEDERM: 1x a year. I always wanted to fill the marionette lines that run from my nose down to the corners of my mouth, but learned that simply filling the lines isn’t the answer. The real issue is the loss of volume in my cheeks, and- clearly not using the right medical terms here, but bear with me- the structure around the cheekbones, as we age, sort of crumbles. Combined, this loss of fat, collagen and overall facial muscle tone literally makes the cheeks sink. The result? Deep lines. So Dr. Smith numbs me up, injects Voluma in my cheeks, then Juvederm to fill in the lines.

3-    SPRAY TAN: A lot. It is my instant mood lifter- I can go from depressed to downright joyous in like 4 minutes flat. Simoni Mitchell, an incredible in-home spray tan expert, who has seen me naked probably more times than my husband in the past 5 years (KIDDING. But you get the point) uses an organic formula on me from head to toe. I consider this part of my skin maintenance plan because having the faux glow on my face gives me ZERO temptation to skimp on sunscreen.

4-    NEW! MICROCURRENT THERAPY: Currently ongoing. This is the thing that re-invigorated my passion for skincare innovation. Yesterday, I went to Skincare By Hannah after my friend Genny (The Daily Darlings) told me about her. OMG you guys…If you don’t live in the Fairfield County area, you may want to move here JUST so you can visit Hannah. She is one of a handful of people in the US trained at the CACI academy in London, and as she explained what microcurrent therapy is (basically,  microcurrent impulses lifts and tone the facial muscles and neck area- and at the same time, it improves skin elasticity and reduces the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles) I was like- I AM IN! So currently I am doing a series of 12 30-minute sessions with the CACI machine on the "jowl" area (there HAS to be a better word to describe the lower part of the face, but for now, this is the term of choice in the industry I guess) over the course of 4-5 weeks. I'll keep you guys posted on the progress- and if you are interested in hearing more about the experience/technology/results, please let me know- would be happy to post more about it in the future if people are curious.

Oh- something I should mention- since I do Botox on my forehead area, the microcurrent won't be able to tone those muscles- so that is why we are focusing on the lower part of my face. So, for anyone considering these kinds of treatments, that is something to keep in mind- it won't work anywhere that you have Botox injected.

So there you have it- the honest truth about the "extra" aspects of my anti-aging skincare strategy.  The things that, if I wanted to pretend I didn't do, I could tell you I never did.

But, well, that's just not me.

I'll do a skincare product post soon- I am in the process of starting a new regimen so once I have been at it for enough time to really be able to share my thoughts on it, I will. Stay tuned...

Would you try or have you tried Botox/Juvederm/Voluma/Spray Tan/Microcurrent Therapy? I am so curious- and open to answer any questions too, so please comment below!

What To Wear When You Commute To Work.

  Lace Culottes  /  White Tee  /  Pink Heels  (identical to pair shown and 1/8 of the price that I paid for mine!)

Lace Culottes / White Tee / Pink Heels (identical to pair shown and 1/8 of the price that I paid for mine!)

When we moved from Madison Square Park in the heart of NYC out to Westport, Connecticut 5 years ago, I was fully aware that the way I worked would change. At first, I was panicked that it was the end of everything. I quickly learned that it was most definitely not- living in suburbia actually helped me to focus on the aspects of my career I loved most, and removing myself from the frenetic energy of the Manhattan gave me just the space I needed to be more selective. As opposed to taking everything that came my way, (because if I didn't, I'd have to sit next to the girl who did at some breakfast event and listen to her wax poetic on it for 45 minutes straight) a quiet okay-ness with not being the busiest blogger/tv contributor/brand ambassador on the planet came over me.

But something that took me MUCH  longer to figure out? What the F to wear on the days I had to commute into the city for meetings and events and shoots. 

Arriving at a destination looking polished and professional after a 90 minute Uber-to-train-to-subway journey is an art that I have finally mastered. These tips- from over 5 years of trial and error testing- are useful to anyone who has to get from point A and arrive at point B looking cool, calm and (stylishly) collected.

1- Lace and sequins are your best bet. They are crazy durable and wrinkle-resistant. These are my best travel buddy year-round, and I have an arsenal of black, navy and camel-toned sequin tees and blazers that pair nicely with dark denim as another option. Also, lace/sequin pencil skirts are great- easy to throw on a white t-shirt and go. Oh- and neither of these things show sweat stains. And commuting can be a hot and sticky affair, in the least appealing way ever. my friends. 

2- Short pants are the only pants. Because anything other than flip flops/ballet flats/sneakers is NOT an in-transit option- nor are the tell-tale creases/dust marks on your pants when you do make the stiletto switch in the elevator upon arrival. I am seriously grateful for these lace culottes every damn day.

3- Hair extensions are essential. I have clip-ins (the same ones for 10 years and counting). They hold style better than my real hair, and don't get sweaty and in turn frizzy like actual hair can. So no matter the elements, my hair maintains some semblance of style. Mine are from an amazing place in NYC called Helena Collection, but you can get "off the rack" clip-ins here

4- Your not-fancy footwear should be, well, fancy. Sometimes, you will get caught in the elevator before you complete your shoe swap. Or run into a professional contact on the train. In the interest of not channeling "Working Girl", invest in a pair of fashion sneaks (yes, I know these seem silly expensive, but I swear to you, they are worth every penny- and you can get them for a major markdown when you shop off this imported-from-Italy site.) When you can get away with flip flops- always opt for these

5- Get a backpack. Being hands free is HUGE. Plus- and I always say this, but- something about wearing a backpack always makes you stand up taller and look younger. I adore this one- especially since you can wear it with anything, dress it up or down, and get it via Amazon Prime (score!).

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CROPPED- BUT PROFESH- PANTS

SEQUINY STUFF

THE OTHER ESSENTIALS

The Quick 6: Swimwear, Home Decor, Skin Savers, Workout Wear and More...

Just a random sharing of things I want you to know about:

1- FLAGPOLE Swimwear: Credit on this one goes to my bestie Miryha- she told me about her new swimwear obsession and it very quickly became mine too. The most gorgeously modern suits with unexpected but amazing color combos- plus, you can order on Zappos and Shopbop which means trying and returning is so simple- key when it comes to trying a new swimwear brand.

2- PLAE Sneakers for Kids/Toddlers: I have raved about this smartly designed brand many times in the past (including HERE), and currently, we are loving this hightop in Aurora Suede- reminds me (and more importantly, Alexa) of a Unicorn in Outer Space, which is clearly an upgrade to the basic Unicorn trend that we are slowly tiring of. 

3- Magic Globes for Cooling/Sinus/Facial Massage: They stay cool for HOURS, and feel amazing first thing in the morning when you wake up congested and puffy. The stimulation also helps to eliminate the appearance of fine lines and large pores, and the cooling effect may also help to activate collagen fibers to improve skin elasticity. I am obsessed with using these twice a day- right when I wake up after applying eye cream, and, if I am going out in the evening, before applying my "time to face the world" makeup. And YAY that you can get them on Amazon Prime!

4- Opalhouse Throw Pillows: Stumbled across this new brand at Target the other day, and bought 3 pillows- itching to go back and get more though. The quality is insanely good- and especially, in my opinion, the velvet styles. They look like custom-made super pricey designer versions, seriously. Check out the entire assortment HERE and swoon.

5- Urban Decay HiFi Shine Ultra Cushion Lip Gloss in SPL: Overall, this new gloss collection is top notch, but special shout out goes to this holographic candy pink with iridescent sparkles shade that still lets your natural lip color shine through so you don't look as if you are suffering from an oxygen deficiency. IMHO, this is a grown up way to wear a festival-inspired lip trend. 

6- Outdoor Voices Activewear: When this brand first reached out and asked if I would like to test it out, I was like "meh, sure." My workout wear preferences tend toward the more glossy black compression, high-tech looking styles- so the heathered fabrics and simple designs didn't grab me right off the bat. Well- when I am wrong, I am WRONG. These leggings are so flattering- and quick-drying, important if you sweat like I do and then want to run errands without looking like you should be wearing adult diapers. I am not that girl who works out in a sports bra and leggings- but in Outdoor Voices, I totally do. The combo of THESE high waist leggings and THIS crop bra top is EVERYTHING! Get on it, people. 

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The 5 White T-Shirts You Need To Own

Having a great white t-shirt ready to be worn at a moment's notice is the ultimate fashion gift to give yourself right now. As we head into warmer temps (hopefully!), being able to throw one on with jeans, track pants, a pencil skirt, these leggings, whatever it may be is the easiest way to get out of the house in minutes looking totally put together.

Currently I am madly in love with THIS t-shirt/tank top hybrid, as seen in the photo above. Tucked into my beloved Madewell high-waist jeans (THIS is the pair I own in every wash), it is an instant outfit.

Below, additional picks to round out your collection. From the waist up, consider your Spring style update DONE. 

1- My Favorite: You already know this one- but in the interest of making the numbers in my shoppable image (trying new things to make this blog easier for you guys to shop from- just click the + icon on each image to go to the product page!) line up with the text, linking it again HERE

2- 70's Inspired Color Pop: THIS Monrow tee is perfectly cut, and has the best striping situation. All you need are roller skates, and you are off and running :)

3- Knotted: A big trend at the moment, THIS front-knot tee hits at the perfect spot, and the price can't be beat- sure, you can find $10 versions but when you want a white tee that is gonna last for more than like 4 washes, spending $30 on quality is wayyyy worth it. 

4- Beach Ready: Put pom poms on anything and I swoon (case in point, THIS hat I shared on Insta that quickly became one of my most clicked items)- especially when they adorn THIS simple white tee that has the most flattering shoulder situation. 

5- Best Basic: Slim cut, crew neck, substantial weight but not at all heavy, THIS is a keeper. 

 

Why Alexa's First Concert Was So Major. For Me.

Sure, taking your child to see her first music concert (or movie, or play, or museum, or so many things for that matter), is a big deal for them. But let's take a moment to appreciate what a big moment it is also is for you.  Of course, the reason for the bigness is different for everyone- depends on the kid, depends on the relationship, depends on so many intangible parts of this life. This is about why it was so major for me.

P!NK is my favorite artist- most people who know me well know that this obsession runs deep. My love and appreciation of her has only grown stronger as she- and I- became moms (around the same time, and I wonder if I am the only one who feels this weird connection with a celeb when you are pregnant at the same time? Bueller? Bueller?). When I heard she would be at MSG, and my friends suggested getting tickets and taking our daughters, at first I was like YES! Then I purposely pretended to forget about it and hoped it would just fall by the wayside- because truth be told, I wasn't sure how Alexa (or I- as a result) would handle the loud, crowded atmosphere. And I was sure that my friends- and their daughters- would be totally cool with the whole experience, which made me even more anxious about it. 

The other day, when one friend excitedly shared with the group that she found great tickets at a great price- and minutes later the reply-all emails saying "WE'RE IN!" starting flooding my inbox- I kind of wanted to throw up. I knew we had to go- superficially because it was something we had always talked about doing together as a group- but also, on some level, because I knew we HAD to. If I let my fear of Alexa's fears get in the way of an experience that could be as special as this, I was setting in to motion of pattern of behavior that would only get worse as time went on and the stakes got higher. Oh, the places I let my brain take me at 2am...

So, I hit send on the "CAN'T WAIT!!" email (as my sweat glands started working overtime), and spend the next few days mentally preparing myself for the worst. Granted, these girlfriends are basically like family- and they have seen the good, bad and ugly time and time again over the past 5 years. But this was gonna be a bit different.  This time, I didn't have Brian there to help me calm Alexa down or distract with a funny joke. It was just moms. And daughters. All girls. We all know how girls can get. And even if they aren't like that at all- which, for the record, these girls really aren't- that fear of judgement, of being the odd one out, lingers (damn you, middle school bullies in 1994!). Plus, we were 90 minutes from home, in a concert venue I was unfamiliar with (if I had to leave in a rush, where would I even tell the UBER to meet us!? No clue.)

Yesterday, we all met at the train station, and off we went. In my backpack were 2 packages of earplugs, a fully charged iPad, headphones, 2 sets of UNO cards, and snacks. My friends of course had little crossbody bags that held simply their phones and wallets. Arriving at Grand Central, my friend Anne (who is the only one in the crew without a daughter in her brood, so she left her 3 boys at home and came solo which was awesome) announced that we should totally walk to Madison Square Garden. Inside, a piece of me died (okay, that is dramatic but you get the gist), because I could already see Alexa flipping out 4 blocks into the walk that her feet hurt/she was hot/how much farther?! I took a deep breath, grabbed Alexa's hand and off we went. Lex started to mutter a bit about being scared of the billboards and noises and while in my mind I thought- oh my, so it begins- out of my mouth I just reminded her that P!NK is a mom and wouldn't be anywhere that wasn't safe for herself or her kids, and kept pace with the group.

Yada yada yada (lots more happened but I imagine by now 95% of you have stopped reading- I get it!)... The concert started and Lex was not happy. It was loud. There were fire effects. It was crowded. Her earplugs kept falling out.  My always resourceful friend Hannah offered up tampons to use as emergency earplugs- kinda genius, right? I kindly declined (because 10 years from now she would NEVER forgive me for letting her sit through a P!NK concert with tampon strings hanging out of each ear!). While my friends and their daughters danced and sang, I held Alexa on my lap, keeping on a brave(ish) face while looking for the nearest exit and feeling around for my phone so I could hit the UBER button.

Anne sprang to action and ran out to pay someone off to quickly get Lex and the other 7 year old in the crew, her friend Sylvie, a giant bag of cotton candy. Heather snuck knowing glances my way in sympathy, reminding me that she too had been there and knew how I was feeling. Jen danced and kept spirits up, changing her seat so Lex and I could cuddle up, without making a big deal of it so as to make me- or Alexa- feel even more awkward.

Eventually, Lex settled enough to look at the stage, and, while holding Sylvie's hand, stood up on her seat and together they softly sang every word to "What About Us". It was the sweetest moment, and one I will never forget. 

Like all things in this mom life, we had the highest highs and the lowest lows- all within a span of 3 hours. As incredible as the concert was (and it was INCREDIBLE), the moments that will replay on loop in my brain for the rest of all time having absolutely nothing to do with who was on stage. It will have everything to do with who was sitting in the seats next to me.

Question: Have you ever felt like this when bringing your child to a "first" with friends? What is your best advice for others from that experience? Please share below in the comments!